Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role - Rebecca C. Mandeville, MFT

Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role

By Rebecca C. Mandeville, MFT

  • Release Date: 2020-08-18
  • Genre: Parenting
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Family scapegoating is an insidious form of psycho-emotional abuse that leaves adult survivors struggling to understand their confusing and painful experiences. In this introductory guide informed by case studies, qualitative research, and over 20 years of working with scapegoated adult survivors, Psychotherapist Rebecca C. Mandeville describes the specific phenomenon associated with family scapegoating abuse (FSA) while offering hope to those suffering in the 'family scapegoat' or 'identified patient' role.

In these pages you'll discover:
FSA Self-Assessment TestHow to recognize and identify family scapegoating abuse (FSA) signs and symptomsWhy scapegoated individuals have difficulty recognizing they are being abusedHow complex trauma (C-PTSD), betrayal trauma, and toxic shame impede FSA recoveryHow intergenerational trauma and false narratives fuel family scapegoating dynamicsWhy the family 'Empath' can end up scapegoatedStrategies to reduce fawning behaviors and realign with your 'true self'Recommended resources and therapy modalities for FSA recovery

From the Author: Scapegoating in any social system is a dehumanizing process of 'othering'. When you are the target of scapegoating in your family-of-origin, the consequences to your mental and emotional health can be severe, including the development of complex trauma (C-PTSD) symptoms. 

This introductory guide's purpose is to help the reader determine if they are in the 'family scapegoat' role; also, to better understand family scapegoating dynamics and the devastating consequences of being 'rejected, shamed, and blamed' by the people who were supposed to love and care for them the most. This is not a 'recovery workbook'; it is a book about what scapegoated adult survivors are recovering from.

About the Author: Rebecca C. Mandeville is a licensed Marriage, Family Therapist and recognized Family Systems expert. She has over 20 years experience in treating adult survivors of dysfunctional family abuse in both clinical and private practice settings.. She coined the term family scapegoating abuse (FSA) while researching family scapegoating's impact on the targeted child / adult child while Core Faculty at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. She is also a pioneer in identifying the overlapping symptoms of family scapegoating abuse (FSA), complex trauma (C-PTSD), betrayal trauma, and the devastating impact and effects of multigenerational trauma on adult survivors of dysfunctional, narcissistic, or abusive family systems.

Those who like to read books written by licensed Mental Health professionals that address healing from the effects of Dysfunctional or Toxic Families; Toxic Family Abuse; Narcissistic Family Abuse; Dysfunctional Family Abuse; Narcissistic Families; Gaslighting; Complex Trauma (C-PTSD); Betrayal Trauma; Trauma-Informed Care; Dysfunctional Family Dynamics; Multigenerational or Intergenerational Trauma; Transgenerational Trauma; Family Empaths; (the) Highly Sensitive Person (HSP); Child Abuse; Systemic Bullying; and Adult Survivors of Child Abuse may especially appreciate this book.

©2020 Rebecca C. Mandeville All Rights Reserved


  • This book is so important

    By luciarhymes
    Physical wounds are easy to see and defend. But we, most often unknowingly, get talked out of our psychological wounds most of the time, which just perpetuates the said wounds. This book is brilliant. It perfectly explains the experience of psychological tampering and abuse, and the knots that are created in our heads because of the trauma. If you want to detangle your mind, or have understanding and compassion about the scapegoat experience, this is all you need. I’m so grateful this book exists.